Surrogacy means something different to each and every person it touches. For intended parents, it is the chance to expand their family and realize their dreams of parenthood. For surrogates, it is the opportunity to give selflessly of themselves to another family who desperately needs them. For both, surrogacy is an extraordinary journey, a rewarding experience unlike any other.
So why is it when someone mentions the topic of surrogacy, powerful emotions come in from both pro and con surrogacy sides of the issue? The main reason is that surrogacy is balancing on the ethical edge when mixing the perceived ‘sacred’ process of reproduction and having children, with work and money. Many people believe that these two worlds should not mix.
At US Surrogacy, our surrogates are women who have already become mothers themselves, who have enjoyed pregnancy that they wish to give the gift of motherhood to others. While surrogates who work with us receive compensation, the majority of them would tell you that they would have chosen to become surrogates even if they did not. They are motivated by altruism, and are not in search of financial gain. We thoroughly screen our surrogates, including taking a look at their credit and finances, to ensure that compensation is not the reason for their actions. Additionally, we offer an appropriate compensation program that, while enticing, is not inappropriate.
Also important is that these women are vetted and counseled before signing any contractual paperwork, or starting their fertility medications. They are heavily interviewed, have psychological evaluations, and are given the opportunity to ask any questions they need answers to before they are approved to be matched with intended parents.
Surrogates can also decide to change their minds at any time before to becoming pregnant. We would never force anyone to become pregnant if they changed their mind. While this rarely happens thanks in part to our screening process, it eliminates concerns that anyone is being forced into surrogacy.
All surrogates must have their own lawyer to ensure that everyone’s needs can be addressed and considered before signing their contract. This ensures that, even if the surrogate is unfamiliar with the legalities of surrogacy, every woman understands what she is agreeing to, and has the opportunity to have amendments, or even remove items from her contract before moving forward.
When all applicants are screened and vetted, the outcome of surrogacy is nothing short of amazing. Ethical surrogacy is a perfect example of how when adults are informed, respectful and working together, they can reach a beautiful common goal.
The thought that surrogates are uneducated, financially unstable women who are being led unknowingly into a contract or agreement that they would not willingly choose for themselves is not an uncommon belief. Many who believe this argue that surrogacy commoditizes women as purchasable items as opposed to intelligent people with free will. This idea is false and can be deeply offensive to the women who altruistically volunteer to help change the lives of the families they will help.
It is important to also note that studies have found surrogate mothers do not suffer major emotional problems when handing over babies they have carried for someone else. Professor Susan Golombok, an expert in surrogacy at City University in London, interviewed 34 surrogate mothers and found that none of the 34 who were interviewed for her research had misgivings about their choice. Any hormonal issues experienced in the weeks after the birth lessened with time, she said. Most surrogate mothers were still in regular contact with the baby and its new parents a year after the birth. Vasanti Jadva, the study’s lead researcher, also from City University, said: “Overall, surrogacy appears to be a positive experience for surrogate mothers. Women who decide to embark upon surrogacy often have completed a family of their own and feel they wish to help a couple who would not otherwise be able to become parents. Surrogate mothers often feel a positive sense of self-worth. This investigation suggests that surrogacy has been a positive experience for those surrogate mothers we interviewed, and it does not support many of the claims commonly made about surrogacy,” Professor Golombok said.
Here at US Surrogacy, we appreciate and respect all our surrogates, and believe them to be some of the most selfless and caring women we’ve ever met, and so we are passionate about dispelling the myth of surrogacy being a commoditization of women. It’s a partnership where we are all working together towards a common goal.
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