Rabecka

My name is Rabecka, I’m here to tell you my surrogate story. It’s unlike many others, I wasn’t in a hard spot for cash, nor did I know the parents prior to our journey. I just simply wanted to feel like a better human. There were struggles and there were hurdles to jump over, but the whole process went by faster than I’d ever imagined and in the end, all of the struggles were well worth it. I began my journey in December of 2016 and gave birth to a beautiful Chinese baby boy April of 2018. He was 5 weeks and 5 days early, but nothing short of amazing. The amount of love and joy that overcame me after I had that little boy was unimaginable, I felt so many feelings that I had never experienced. Even though the labor was really hard, I wouldn’t have had it any other way. I learned a lot from myself and many others along my journey, I made lifelong friends and some new family members. My intended parents and I bonded instantly. I learned a long the way that some people find surrogacy to be “weird, ungodly, stupid and even cult like.” But I also learned that some people find it to be “rewarding, heartwarming, beautiful, and selfless.” I soaked up the good and ignored the bad as much as I could because I knew why I chose to be the garden for that little boy and I wasn’t budging. Leaving the hospital was bittersweet, I didn’t feel like my surro-babe was mine to keep, but my body didn’t understand why we weren’t taking a baby home when we worked so hard to grow one. It took me about 2 months to feel emotionally normal again, but those were some really hard times. I had baby blues like you wouldn’t believe but I really think that they were so strong because I didn’t have the normal baby distractions you would typically have after giving birth. All in all, my surrogate journey was one of the best things I believe I’ll ever do in my lifetime, I wouldn’t trade it for the world. My heart is full and my soul is at peace.